There's nothing like having a Sex and the City-esque chat with your friends to make you feel ahead or behind the sexual curve, particularly when that curve is the butt. If it seems like they're all trying anal sex, that's not a crazy assumption: If you haven't taken part in any butt play yet—or even if you have—many aspects might seem myserious or embarrassing. So we tapped Dr.
Kat Van Kirk, sex therapist, for some useful information about trying all things booty. We don't necessarily suggest you bring these facts up at your next cocktail party, but they could make for some fascinating fodder with your sexual partner. It Shouldn't Hurt An obvious fear about anal pentration is that it'll be painful to insert something as big as a penis or even a finger into such a small hole.
If you feel uncomfortable, start with a small item, such as a toy, and work up from there. You can also stimulate that area by pressing into the perineum, or the space between his testicles and anus. It's very similar tissue as the prostrate," says Van Kirk. A partner can access your G-spot by penetrating with a similar hooked angle toward the anterior wall of your vagina, whether that be with a finger, his penis, or a toy.
Some Women Can Orgasm From It Anal sex doesn't have to be some gift you give your partner so he can check it off his own bucket list. Contrary to popular belief, you might enjoy it too.
The G-spot tissue "explains why some women like anal sex," Van Kirk says. A penis might hit your G-spot from an entirely new angle, providing an entirely new orgasm. There Are Nerve Endings in the Anus You know that the penis and vagina are packed with nerves, but what's in the butt? There Is No Lubrication Your vagina is prepared for sex just about all day, every day for most of your life, and it prepares you more by smoothing penetration. Not so much for the anus. Just about any anal play would benefit from a lubricant, says Van Kirk.
His Penis Might Hit Your Intestine When a man's penis is incredibly long or going incredibly deep, you might feel the sensation that he's hitting your cervix. For anal sex, there is an anatomical equivalent. But it would take a strange series of events and poor judgment to wind up pooping on him, says Van Kirk. Still, You Might Feel the Urge to Go Many women who experiment with anal sex may feel that terrifying urge to take a bowel movement during the act, but "it typically goes away," says Van Kirk, who likens it to feeling the urge to pee when a sex position is pressing on you at an odd angle.
Anal play of any kind might leave more bacteria on the fingers or penis, so if he switches to touching your labia or clitoris, it could then be transferred. You also need to switch condoms if you go from anal sex to vaginal sex. Use a condom, kids! Speaking of crazy sex myths, here are 5 Sex Rumors to Stop Believing. Anal Play Won't Stretch Out Your Butt Hole If women worry about their vaginas stretching out from use thanks a bunch, slut-shamers , it follows they'd worry about the same thing with their anuses.
Put it this way: Though, "You might just relax after the first time having anal sex, which makes it feel ike it's gotten bigger.