The proliferation of these myths leads not only to sexual dissatisfaction, but serious self-esteem issues. According to one study , more than 60 percent of women have faked an orgasm during intercourse or oral sex. Many of these women were motivated by fear of intimacy, insecurities about sexual functioning, or the desire to get sex over with. When popular culture typically portrays women achieving effortless, earth-shattering orgasms with every sexual encounter, many men and women are left with a poor understanding of the complexities of female sexuality.
Here are seven facts about female orgasms that will improve your understanding of female sexuality. Only about 25 percent of women can achieve orgasm through intercourse alone; most need clitoral stimulation as well.
Without high arousal the chances that orgasm will come from intercourse are slim. Not all orgasms involve the classic signs — sweating, rapid breathing, and muscle contractions. They can be much more subtle and mild, producing the sensation of gentle relaxation after arousal. They actually happen in the brain, which is possibly one reason that medications like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors impact orgasm for so many users.
During orgasm, the brain is also flooded with oxytocin, the chemical responsible for feelings of intimacy and connection. Both men and women experience this hormonal surge, but higher levels of testosterone in the male brain may combat some of the effects, which may explain why many women experience more intense feelings of connection after sex than men.
Vibrators appeal to specific nerves. Make sure your sex toys are designed for the purpose for which you plan to use them, and always clean them with mild soap and warm water or a cleaner made specifically for sex toys. Underwhelming orgasms can be caused by weak muscles. Pelvic floor health is an important part of sexual function. Weak pubococcygeus PC muscles can impact the strength of orgasm — another reason Kegel exercises are important.
Tighten the muscles that stop urination, then relax them for 5 seconds. Repeat several times in a row and work up to holding and relaxing for 10 seconds at a time. Try to perform at least 3 sets of 10 repetitions a day. Orgasms are not an innate ability. According to researchers , many women say their most satisfying sexual experiences had more to do with the connection to their partner than the sole pleasure of orgasm.
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