Nov 23, , A recent survey suggests that most men are not the skillful lovers they think themselves to be. When it comes to the fundamentals, men tend to make some serious mistakes in the sack. Here are the 10 avoidable ones. Silent play No matter the circumstances, most men tend to be eerily silent during the entire act. The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing.
Foreplay is not a means to an end Most men tend to breeze through it — the effortless kissing here and caressing there, as they undress. But in too much anticipation of a great act, you may appear desperate to begin. Enjoy every aspect of the encounter as you get to know the woman you are with. Women enjoy a well-paced build-up — the making-out, the undressing, the reciprocal oral sex. This will also lead to a more fulfilling encounter. And perhaps, a standing invitation for more. Forget the big O Besides, when you approach sex with a clear focus on only reaching an orgasm, you may lose sight of the path to the climactic moment.
Rather than rush it, why not enjoy the experience as a whole. The conclusion, though delayed, will be a lot more satisfying for both. Avoid the licking Performing oral sex on a woman means quick licks at the labia majora, followed by brief, orgasm-inducing penetration with your tongue. However, while that may seem enticing, the labial tonguelashing is not a technique that docs recommend. USE The fingers carefully Although digital penetration is considered a normal part of foreplay, some guys get overeager and, confuse their fingers for penises.
As a result, they finger their partners with a vigour reserved for sex. This also reflects that they have no clue what a woman wants, which is why they have resolved to go hard and fast. Instead, you should aim for a more measured approach; make her get used to the feel of your fingers as you gradually insert more of them.
Sensitise to her wants If you think that simply pounding away at a woman during sex is a major turn-on, you are wrong. Yet, many men convinced that it will ultimately bring their partners to orgasm.
But women are sensitive souls. They appreciate nuance, feeling and deep emotion. If she asks you to go harder, oblige. But if the moment calls for it, go slowly. The key is to sensitise yourself to what she wants, and not what you want.
Go easy with the clitoris Women enjoy the clitoral stimulation than any sort of penetration. So never ignore her clitoris. Remember, the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so too much force can actually prove painful. Keep her entire body in mind When you have sex, you aim to pleasure the woman you are with. So it makes sense that many guys focus on the one or two sensitive areas of her body like the neck or thighs.
However, the next step is not to look for other ways to please her. Though this notion is understandable, it is also incredibly short-sighted. The law of diminishing returns applies everywhere — even in the bedroom. And you may not want to focus heavily on her clitoris. Overstimulation can sometimes prove unpleasant. So keep things varied. As the age-old adage goes, variety is the spice of life.
But you should never take it too far no one wants to leave the bedroom in need of medical attention and you should always remember to show some compassion afterward. It is widely understood to be a couple of inches up the anterior vaginal wall, between the vaginal opening and the urethra.
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