PIN Lying to your lover is pretty much the death knell of any relationship. Once you take honesty out of the equation, you are pretty much living on borrowed time. Women should never, ever tell their man how many people they've been with, according to Cox, since his definition of "promiscuity" is "sleeping with men other than him.
And yet, is that true? I think it's completely unfair to marry someone who doesn't know your secrets. We asked eight men what they think when women reveal their actual "sex numbers" and the answers both surprised and moved us. Simply put, sex is a good thing.
More people should have at it. Those who aren't committed to somebody else should never feel ashamed for having sex with as many people as they want as long as those people are doing it safely, both physically and emotionally. I have always preferred 'experience' and 'skills' to purity. For me it is more about sexiness, sensuality, openness, and very few limits. Guess that's why my wife and I are a perfect match. But in general, more means she has some experience and comfort and knows what she likes and what to do!
If I were dating today and the number were high, I would just chalk it up to: That's a huge change from when I was younger, when I would've flipped that statement.
I think you should judge the person for who they are and who you think they will be in the future more than who they were. If a woman is in her late 20s or older, it's one thing. When the number starts to approach the 20s is when I would start to wonder. Before I met my wife, I had been with many more than her, and it certainly would have been a double standard if I questioned a woman if they were over that number, too. Here's what counts to me -- can you name everyone on your list?
THAT tells me if you take sexual intimacy seriously or not. In the past few years I've been involved with women with numbers as low as 3 and as high as I don't have any deal breakers.
As long as I'm the only one sleeping with the woman at the time, and she is STD-free, I say women are entitled to try to have as much sex as they want just like we men seem to do. No deal breaker for me. I'm more interested in health.
The more practice, the merrier. I also don't think any number is too low, although if they've had zero partners, I'd find that odd. Why do we women feel like we need to chase these invisible standards then?
We are allowed to explore our sexuality and not feel that we will be criticized for it, right? Besides, who would really want a man who has a dealbreaker that stringent anyway? And, really, honesty is what makes things hot. Did you lie to your partner about your sexual "number"?