Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. By Carla Herreria Of all the great things in life, sex can be one of the most rewarding. Not to mention it feels pretty darn good. But if you're a man who has sex with women, there's one thing you'll need to master before you can achieve the highest levels of sexual pleasure. When it comes to the female reproductive system, things can get complicated fast.
Yes, the vagina -- a term often used when people really mean the vulva -- can be delicate and complex and also, by the way, tough AF. A man's understanding of the vagina can dramatically affect his love life. Studies show that men who have sex at least twice a week have better heart health and lower risk of cardiovascular disease.
But better sex and foreplay don't magically happen overnight. When you say "vagina," you probably mean "vulva. This is the "hole" where the penis or fingers are usually inserted and through which babies pass during birth. Basically, it's everything you're looking at when you're down there. The vulva includes the vagina, the pubic mound, the labia majora the outer folds of the vulva and labia minora the smaller, inner folds , the opening of the urethra the pee hole and the clitoris more on this very important part later.
Purestock via Getty Images 2. Women can get erect, too. Just as a man's penis swells with blood when he's aroused, women -- or, rather, their clitoris -- can become erect, too. When a woman is turned on, blood flows to her clitoris, the small, round nub just above where the two inner lips meet.
This causes the clitoris to swell and become sensitive to the touch. The head of the clitoris can become overly sensitive and may retract underneath the hood to avoid further stimulation. The clitoris is a powerhouse for pleasure. With an estimated 8, nerve endings , the clitoris serves one purpose and one purpose only: In fact, it's the only human organ that exists solely for pleasure, according to Dr.
Hilda Hutcherson, a gynecologist with Columbia University and author of Pleasure: And there's more to that beacon of pleasure than the little nub that peeks out. The clitoris has a body and two legs that extend within the body and run alongside the pubic bone. These parts can be "very sensitive," Hutcherson told The Huffington Post. Just because a woman's vagina isn't lubricated, that doesn't mean she's not aroused.
While women are capable of lubricating naturally, Hutcherson says there are circumstances that can make it more difficult. For example, women may have a harder time lubricating naturally after menstruation. Certain medications and antihistamines also make lubrication more difficult, as do changes in hormones, birth control and age. Some women may even take longer to become aroused and lubricated if they've been in a relationship for a long time. Most women don't reach an orgasm with vaginal intercourse.
She suggests beginning with gentle strokes to the clitoris and the labia, which can be very sensitive, but is often neglected. And if you really want to get a woman going, Hutcherson says that oral sex is "the easiest way for most women to experience pleasure.
When it comes to a woman's sexual stimulation, different strokes for different folks definitely applies. One of the biggest mistakes a man can make when trying to please a woman is assuming that all women are stimulated in the same way. The trick is to switch up the positions, techniques and areas of stimulation to see what the woman responds best to. This is how you find the G-spot.
The G-spot is a very controversial subject in the world of gynecology, and while some experts believe they have its exact location mapped out , others doubt that it even exists. Hutcherson believes the elusive G-spot is an area of glands near the urethra-side of the vaginal wall. Lubricate the fingers of the dominant hand and insert them, palm facing upwards, into the vagina. Reach the fingers all the way back until you feel the cervix. Once you hit the cervix, pull the fingers out slightly and rub the top of the vaginal wall where it feels most stimulating.
Rub the area by curling your fingers, "like you're saying come hither against that front wall," Hutcherson says. Begin with light pressure then gradually add more pressure. Fuhito Kanayama via Getty Images The most important thing to remember when handling, observing or adoring a vagina is to understand its keeper: Try different things, have an open mind and be adventurous to find out what really works for both parties.