Now of course, all women are different, and they have varying sexual preferences. Get free access to my new course and discover the 5 conversation mistakes that put you in the friendzone. She Needs to Feel Comfortable with You Emotionally healthy women need to feel comfortable before sleeping with you. This comfort is also important to the actual quality of the sex. Women are turned on by the whole experience — not just the physical.
So, how do you make women feel comfortable with you? Avoid judgemental opinions, especially about women Contentious and judgemental opinions are some of the worst conversation mistakes that turn women off.
Instead, aim to be open and accepting in your conversations, and repel the urge to make snap judgments. And this is kind of obvious, but worth noting: Genuinely care about her and her well-being A lot of guys aim to fuck women simply to add notches to their bed post.
Every time I had a new girl, the next number would tick off in my head. It took away from the experience and likely made me seem more shallow and less trustworthy. But you must avoid having sex with women in search of this type of validation or an extra notch. Instead, your motivation should lie in the desire to enjoy an amazing experience with her. Talk about emotional topics Emotional conversation topics lay the foundation for trust and a strong connection.
Here are some emotional conversation topics you can use: Her dreams Where she wants to travel Her career Her motivations What she loves to do And once you hit on topics like these, you can dive deeper by asking the right questions to open up the conversation.
Here are some of the risks from their point of view: The risk of getting pregnant. The risk of STDs. Women are far more likely to be affected by STDs.
We all know how our society looks at women who have a lot of sex. The risk of an awkward sexual experience. This risk awareness is also biological. Think back to the hunter-gatherer days. Make her comfortable around you. See the points from 1 above. Make a concerted effort to get to know her.
Show genuine interest when she tells you about herself, instead of just waiting for her to finish talking so you can talk more. Provide her with good emotions. The better she feels, the more likely she is to follow your lead as well as take things to the next level with you. So, you should be leading her and managing her emotions throughout the interaction. She needs to feel she can trust you before she can fully give herself to you and get immersed in the experience.
Again, this comes from being accepting and non-judgmental, as well as genuinely caring about her. She quickly develops trust with the man who loves women. She can sense he has no ulterior motive, he enjoys the moment, he understands her, and he appreciates her beauty.
And as a result, she is more comfortable moving things further with this man. Remove the blame from women and put it on yourself i. What can I do better the next time? The way you analyze situations and problems is much different — much more logical — than the way women do.
And so, you must cater to their emotions when interacting with and attracting them. Focus on what you find sexy about her rather than the anxious thoughts that may run through your mind when you interact with a girl. Have a mission outside of women. Yet the average guy signals exactly that. You should take the opposite approach, and it instead have a more relaxed attitude when it comes to sex. Overcome her objections Women will sometimes object to requests like going home with you and sleeping with you.
She Needs You to Initiate it Women want men to initiate sex. Plus, leading her will turn her on. Make the conversation more sexual Throughout the conversation, you should infuse a few sexual innuendos and jokes.
The key is that you want to insinuate that sex is on the table without bluntly stating it. You also want to get her thinking of the possibility of sex with you. So, you actually have to take her along for the ride. Set up your dates in a way where sex is possible. Always aim to meet at a venue within a minute walk from your place or hers. This makes it A LOT easier to go back to your place or hers as the date progresses you should also follow this first date structure.
Greet her with a hug. Lead her to the bar with your hand lightly on the small of her back. When you talk or tease each other, lightly tap her elbow or arm with the back of your hand. Always have your place prepared.
Make the Move This is an obviously necessary part of initiating things. A good rule I like to go by is that when I feel like I want to make a move on a girl, I go for it. One more point to add: Some women will be ready for sex with you after an hour or sometimes even less , while others will hold off until the second or third date and maybe more, in rare cases. Conclusion Most men play a guessing game when it comes to getting sexual with women.
If you follow along with this post and apply the knowledge, you can usually avoid these problems. To recap, here are the 4 things she needs from you before sex: She Needs to Feel Comfortable with You 2.
She Needs to Trust You 4. She Needs You to Initiate it Take these things into account on your dates and interactions with women.
Until next time, Dave Perrotta P. For help with this, you can check out my best-selling book Conversation Casanova: