For many women, when we think about having sex, we instantly associate it with being fully naked. In fact, in many relationships, sex may not exist at all. True love making takes emotional work, connection, and communication.
So, is that your only two options — full nudity or no sex at all? Every once in awhile, I suggest keeping your clothes on to experience sex. Because great sex is not about naked bodies writhing all over each other trying to cum and get off on a climax. Although climax is an amazing experience, it is also just one small part of having amazing sex. Sacred sex is about intimacy, connection, and relationship building.
And starting with your clothes on and experiencing arousal fully-clothed is an amazing way to grant yourself the permission to enjoy pleasure in a sacred, more intimate way. With clothes on, the build up of anticipation and excitement can produce amazing orgasmic sex if initiated with care and compassion. Your clothes are a boundary that separates intercourse from sexual arousal and play.
And it is in the dance of increasing arousal that your experience of sex becomes more fulfilling and powerful. Keeping yourself clothed, at least partially, is a major turn-on. Clothing creates a sensation of suspense. And in essence, the clothes create a safe space for self-expression that may not exist otherwise, especially when body image and self-esteem are at risk. Instead, your sexual connection builds from slow and sensual intimate practices that steadily excite and arouse orgasmic pleasure.
And it is OK to start and end without getting naked. The secret to an amazing sexual experience is creating a loving connection. And connection can happen right where you are, in the moment, with your clothes on. And some of the best orgasmic feelings can happen fully-clothed. Here are some arousing ways you can use clothing to enhance sex: Let clothing remind you to … slow down. Use striptease as a way to prolong the experience and build anticipation.
Lift and peek under the clothing and use it as an adventure of discovery. Play with a vibrator. Your partner can slide a vibrator down your pants or use it gently over clothing.
And then slowly, begin to remove your clothes as you feel ready to explore more deeply. Treat yourself to a fully-clothed orgasm. See how long you can stay fully clothed and how excited you can get just by connecting, kissing and sliding around on each other. Use intimate sexual positions to enhance the overall connection you feel during your make-out session. The connection alone is enough to turn you on.
Leaving your clothes on can generate friction and new sexy experience that results in a surprisingly fantastic orgasm. Take only your bottoms off.
Keeping your top on creates an amazing feeling of safety for sexual foreplay. Foreplay can have an immediate effect if the connection concentrates down in the pelvis. When you keep your top half clothed, you can then play down low with a sense of direction and focus. Men can focus on the female clitoris and turning on sensation. And women can focus on the penis. This focus alone can produce amazing results.
You can reverse the foreplay and take off your tops and using nipple stimulation and kissing to stimulate arousal. Wear erotic clothing and have sex with high heels on.
Start with a discussion about which type of erotic clothing is a turn on for each of you. Decide what your ideal fantasy outfit is, and then shop for it together. The alluring sight and texture of that sexy ensemble can heighten arousal and incite new levels of passion and sexual play. Remember, your clothes are an extension of your personal expression and sexuality.
So let every side of you out to play.