When Carrie was single, she found time to focus and learn about herself. That is one of the biggest perks of being single. If you want to order a pizza and binge-watch TV shows in your PJs on a Friday night, you have no obligations to a group date. When the holidays roll around, you can spend that extra hundred bucks you would have spent on a gift for your partner on … you guessed it, yourself. Who knows what you want better than you.
Now put your hands up! Being the perpetual fifth-wheel gets old. Try and realize that maybe the perfect person is you. And a new pair of boots. And then you can strut your stuff. Any man would be totally lucky to have you and you should never, ever forget that.
Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be. Are you the same person you were back then? We definitely grow thanks to those things called time and experiences. We learn and evolve. Sometimes, that is hard to accept. What makes it easier is knowing that you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Get to know me, then hate me.
The whole auditorium raised their hand. None of us are perfect. We have all probably said things and formed opinions of people we do not know all that well. Take, for example, that quiet girl in high school who turned out to be a stand-up comedian.
Who would have guessed? Or the cheerleader who seemed to have it all figured out, but was actually dealing with her parents' divorce. Get to know a person before you judge them. Even if you end up hating them, at least you tried, right? The person who buys you that nail polish you wanted? The person who makes the perfect playlist? Well, that's you, of course. When you practice self-love, you made a guarantee to yourself that no matter what happens, everything will be all right.
For example, Samantha said this lovely and empowering quote when she was breaking up with her long-term BF. Catering to his needs, rather than focusing on herself had consumed so much of her time.
When she finally realized this, the break up was a breath of fresh air and allowed Samantha to get back to her old self. What makes you happy?
How can you achieve that? And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going. That's totally the key word here. Use your past experiences as life lessons to guide you, not to hold you back. Because when you think about it, there are no stop signs in life. There are no yellow lights, either. You do not get to slow down or stop, so you might as well buckle up, step on the gas and start living.
Like Carrie said, you're going to make mistakes and then you're going to make the right choices. While we would all prefer to always make the right decision, sometimes mistakes slip through.
Like wearing white pants to a BBQ. Or telling that inappropriate joke in front of your boss. We now know those white pants need to remain in the closet when BBQ sauce will be within a mile of our person. You know you're going to wear them again despite your inability to not spill on them.
Just look at it as a metaphor for life. You're going to mess up. You're not going to be perfect. Your hair is going to be messy and out of place. You are probably going to step in that puddle in your brand new shoes. And also encourage them to also bring a bleach pen with them wherever they go. Those things totally work wonders and can save the day. Advertising [x] Give TheTalko a Thumbs up!