Okay, she might have left him regardless. Most factors were not the same. So that part, of course not. I was definitely Carrie when the show was on. A lot of us who were Carries earlier in our lives usually grow up to be Mirandas. She was successful and secure and smart; she was the grown-up to a large extent. Nobody wants to be Carrie anymore; everyone recognizes that Carrie has some major character flaws. I have a piece in New York Magazine this week on this topic.
The governor thing is in there. Samantha, is she alone in her 60s? What does that look like? What are the pluses and minuses of that? As you know, the show gets criticized for being unrealistic.
What about the show do you find to be the most realistic? These women have been through a lot: The Cosmos and the cupcakes and the fashion loom just as large as remembering what it was like when Samantha had to shave her head because she was going through chemo. That balance somehow really worked. It made us want to go in, and then we were in there and they tricked us into dealing with heavier stuff. What was so shocking about it? There just was not ever a show where you saw this depiction of single women.
The sex scenes are funny, occasionally character-revealing; whereas the talking was more important. That, to me, is where the revolution happened. The show was basically fun sex ed for adults. What do you think the show did for journalism of the heart? Which is probably mostly good. For me personally, both at the time and now, in my ideal world she would have come back from Paris because she realized she belonged with her friends and New York — not because Big came and got her.
I was so in love with Berger; it was a problem. Guys like that are my Big — the unattainable writer who never wants to settle down and just cares about his next story or book deal or whatever. My Bigs were all like that, too. I really wanted Carrie and Berger to figure it out. That felt real to me. They seemed like equals to me, and that she could just be herself with him. And they got it real right. There was something special about him. He and Carrie were equals and had things in common; I could imagine them spending their lives together.
When I see couples, fictional or otherwise, my obsession is always: What would they talk about in 20 years?