Tweet As my most trusted source of sex advice, can you recommend a good sex shop? I'd prefer not to go to the weird-ass porno shops, as they're frequented by scuzzy old men. As strange as it may sound, I need a "respectable" establishment, as I'll be taking my Iowa girlfriend with me. I recall that in a column from a couple of months ago you recommended two. Is there a store you recommend? And if you absolutely need to have some sort of freaky question: What's the best way to bring up the desire to be plugged in the ass by a girl with a dildo?
I forget the name that your readers came up with for this activity, but I'd like to bring this up to my girl. Examples of proper usage: I totally pegged the shit out of him last night. Lest I be accused of taking payola from the women who own Toys in Babeland, let me state for the record that I've been recommending their stores for a lot longer than they've been advertising in The Stranger.
So I say this with a clear conscience: Be sure and tell 'em Dan Savage sent ya that way I get my 10 percent.
In the 10 years she's been selling dildos, the lesbolicious Claire has helped get more dildos into more straight men's asses than she cares to think about. To break the pegging ice, Claire suggested that you buy your girlfriend a copy of Bend Over Boyfriend 2, a how-to video for women who want to fuck their boyfriends in their boyish butts.
I can be bought, but not for three-and-a-half bucks. No, I'm recommending it because it's a great educational video, the Nightline of how-to-fuck-your-boyfriend's-ass videos. Are there sex toys that a virgin can use? I will appreciate any help you can provide. Claire told me she could recommend about vibrators that are designed for use on the clitoris, not for penetration.
I urge you to buy all , as that would set me up for life! Clit-stim vibrators would leave your hymen and--theoretically, at least--your virginity in tact. But what Claire really wanted to do was crawl up on her soapbox and rant for a few minutes about the whole concept of virginity. Is virginity the state of not yet having been penetrated by a man? In that case, the most sexually experienced 'thoroughbred' lesbian [i. Is 'virginity' a state before sexual engagement or satisfaction? Then no vibrator on the market will do its job and preserve a woman's virginity.
Is it an intact hymen? Then you could take your virginity with your own hand. Some women are born without hymens; were they never virgins? I mean, I don't think virginity is or isn't being penetrated or getting off with someone else. I think being a "virgin" is subjective and personal, but I do think it's real. Virginity is like pornography: We know it when we see it or we know it when we are it. And if we can't use the word "virginity" anymore, what word do we use to describe someone who hasn't had sex yet, whatever that person thinks sex is?
But there should be a different term for that. I am a year-old straight male involved in a yearlong relationship. My girlfriend and I have always had a very active and satisfying sex life, and we try our best to think up new and fun things to do. After dabbling in handcuffs and anal beads, we've decided to take it to the next level: What should we look for when buying a harness?
I would think finding one that fits properly and holds the dildo firmly is of paramount concern. Also, we would definitely want a double-sided dildo so that she can be penetrated at the same time.
Since I am wholly unfamiliar with anal sex, what size dildo should we get for me? Fill Me Up Back to buttfucking straight boys--and thank God. I mean, it's so much nicer to talk with Claire about something we agree on. Touch a vibrator to that thing and you'll each know in a hurry that it's inside both of you. I can't imagine you meet many white boys with big lips working at a law firm, but if you're having trouble choosing between the white boys you're dating, and you're into big lips, by all means go with the one with the biggest lips.
You're not being shallow, you're being true to yourself.