So as a sex expert myself, I want to make sure you understand the philosophy of sexual dominance so you can not only fill the role of a dominant in your relationship… But also kick ass at it.
Being dominant in bed has added a lot of excitement to my sex life — and it can add excitement to yours as well. At work… With strangers in a cafe… Or wherever you happen to go. Sure, not all kinds of domination are sexual, but taking charge in your life is a good start. Again, these keys help everyone involved and are incredibly enjoyable when handled right.
The main reason most women want to be dominated is cultural. So with that in mind, I want to share three easy steps you can take to sexually dominate any woman into a mindblowing orgasm. Just check this out. Beginning with step number one: This is also one part where a lot of guys get confused. A lot of guys believe that dominating a woman just means telling her what to do. Thanks to movies like 50 Shades of Grey, most men go about sexual domination all wrong.
In fact, these kinds of movies play into male sexual fantasies, instead of the female sexual domination fantasy. So what should you do? Be prepared to open those lines of communication. Because the truth is, a lot of guys who want to be the dominant one in bed will shame their partner. They do this by rejecting her wants, either through their actions or even verbally. For a woman, this is a huge red flag. For example, would you shake your head at her professional aspirations?
Would you deny her favorite post-night out slice of pizza? Be willing to explore with her — and if necessary, be prepared to jump out of your comfort zone. Just like when you try new things in your life outside the bedroom, keep an open mind between the sheets as well. So facilitate an approving, exciting space so that she can really let her inhibitions go wild.
That way she can really open up to you about her fantasies… like this naughty fantasy, for example. So be open with her, and pay attention. Take the time to actually soak that information up. Another direct example of how you may need to listen to her has to do with her sexual limits. For many women, sexual exploration comes in increments.
The first time you explore a sexual fetish together, do so to a low degree. This helps the two of you get a feel for this new and unexplored sexual pleasure. Playing off of my previous example of discovering her limits and where they lie, a lot of understanding how to listen has to do with paying attention to her body. She might not say when she loves something… but her body will show you.
Feed off of it. Thrive off of it. Direct her with your questions, while also keeping tabs on what her movements tell you.
Together, these forms of communication will allow you to figure out exactly what she feels and wants. This is the best way to practice anything, so grow with each other. Look and listen, my friend, look and listen. Think of yourself as the motivator, and so leading is your primary way of operating. In the 50 Shades of Grey style of sexual dominance, this is at least one thing they manage to nail on the head. But hold on — pump the brakes for a second.
That brings us back to our first key approval. Through this knowledge, begin to lead her. Well done, my friend. I already mentioned that sexual dominance can be found everywhere — even outside of actually having sex. Does she like having her hair pulled? Watch her reaction and respond accordingly. Have you ever surprised her with a bouquet and a surprise dinner date? Or maybe a message to let her know just how much she means to you?
How do these kinds of surprising acts usually go over? So begin to translate these leading actions into the bedroom with the mindset that these sexual surprises will mean a lot to her. For example, a lot of women are hesitant to open up about their dirty sexual fantasies. A lot of that simply stems from her own reservations.
So break that pattern by simply following these steps. Trust me on this one. And remember, these three keys span across all sorts of relationships.
You can start implementing these keys at any point in your relationship as well. These keys are short and sweet: Approve of her desires… Listen to her words and physical signs… And lead her to a mind-blowing orgasm. And remember — have fun! This is about your pleasure, too. As sex is such a huge part of meaningful relationships — both short-term and long-term — the concepts of approval and listening are imperative.
Sex should be exciting for both of you, even if that means you have to work a little harder to fully communicate with her. Is there a specific kind of rough sex every woman responds to, for example?