One of my friends went on a failed date they had met through a dating site ; and suggested that I maybe give the guy a chance. She showed me a couple of pictures and I was sold. He was 57 and I was Our first date was electric.
He was refined, intelligent and intuitive. Spending time with him was exhilarating. So needless to say when he took me to bed the first time, I was tense, nervous and unsure. When you on the fence: But during the several weeks of our sexual love affair with this older man, I learned many things about myself, and about life. These things I take with me and treasure. How to forget about my imperfections In the bedroom, he was careful, patient and took his time.
He enjoyed all the parts of me that I hated. He loved my big bum with all its wobbliness. He loved kissing my tummy, although there were stretch marks. And despite these things that always caused me a great amount of anxiety, he made me really enjoy sex.
This was the first thing that he taught me. He taught me not to worry about my body. It was more a case of forgetting about them for a while and allowing myself to enjoy my body with someone else. How to appreciate my youth I remember the third or fourth time we slept together so well. It was like some veil had dropped and the natural stiffness between two strangers started disappearing.
With something close to urgency, he would hungrily devour me. He had a sad, almost disappointed sparkle in his eye and then I realised something. He would never keep up with me. He would never be quite as active and energetic as me. He would never be quite as excited about traveling as me. So many things I yearned to do and see, were things he had already done and seen several times over. How to let someone else take the lead At that stage of my life I was very headstrong and independent.
I was working while studying and liked to pay my way as far as I could. Having a love affair with an older man however, can turn out to be very expensive. I wanted to drink the fancy wine he liked, I wanted to eat good food and see beautiful places and there was no way I could afford it at that age. Over time I learned to swallow my pride and let go and let him spoil me. I knew what some people would think: And you know what? I knew it would be a short-lived experience, and I was having so much fun.
And in the end, I learned one of the most important life lessons: How to choose better partners It might sound strange, but he set the bar very high for me. The sex was phenomenal.
The dates were first class every time. And the romance and conversation were stimulating, erotic and deep. I realised that with this man, years definitely brought with it experience. After our affair ended things changed when I saw other men. He taught me how to feel confident and sexy and wanted; and he created a world of romance for me. Through him I learned how a man should always make me feel.