SHE seemed to have it all: Then Yvonne Carmichael jeopardised everything by having a torrid affair with a random stranger, ripping apart the cosy trajectory of her life. Midlife affairs are usually the reserve of testosterone-driven, crisis-ridden males — as if females have no such needs — or so the media world would have us believe.
Apple Tree Yard, a dramatised version of a novel by Amanda Coe, challenges pre-conceived ideas about middle-age sex. The four-part psychological thriller has prompted a lively debate on this issue and year — old actress Emily Watson, who plays Yvonne, has commented: Nick Briggs The idea that our sexuality can be compartmentalised as non-existent, especially as we are living longer more vital lives, seems absurd.
Their sex drive — which they thought was dormant — goes into overdrive. It can be quite an amazing and delicious experience. Many women report that they feel the same. How glorious it is then, when we meet the right person and that person is as electrified as we are!
There may be a loss of closeness in general and resentments by the woman towards the partner that have built up over years, which have gone unaddressed. It totally depends on their unique circumstances and how they feel about themselves. Considering the experiences of older Australian Women. But even then, a large minority still have sex.
But I also work with a number of women in their 50s and above, who want to know what all the fuss is about, because they could quite easily never have sex again. As they begin to discover their ability to feel sexual pleasure and arousal, their drives tend to increase. Increasingly, there is research to show that older women embarking on new relationships report no reduction whatsoever in their sexual desire.
And perhaps even encourage women to explore their own sexuality more. Some of the high-achieving women he chose to feature were actresses Julianne Moore, 56, Charlotte Rampling, 70, and Helen Mirren, However, despite this celebration of our vitality as we age, we still may have some catching up to do as individuals, says Power Smith.
Slo-o- o-w- w down. It takes longer for us to warm up, and this intensifies as we get older. Make the warm-up phase of sex play last hours Appreciate, decorate, and celebrate your body.
Jewellery, lingerie, feathers, fringe, silk, velvet, massage oil, candlelight — whatever looks good and feels good. Learn what you like. Do sexy things on your own to get in the mood long before you get naked. Fantasise a sexy scene. Spend some time humming with a vibrator, reading erotica, or watching porn — or all of these. Have sex during high energy times, when your arousal is strongest, whether solo or partnered.
Kiss sweetly, passionately, quickly, slowly, contentedly, hungrily, lightly. All kinds of kisses help you bond with your partner, warm up, and enjoy the moment. Lucky for us that sex toys are easy to find, fun to try, and wow, do they work! Use a silky lubricant. There are many different lubricants made specifically for sex that feel great and enhance or bring back the joy of friction. Make applying lubricant an erotic part of sex play.
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