We won't judge you for being curious we are, too: Can women really, um, squirt? You've seen it in so many pornos you've lost count and when you talk to that one dude who always brags about his sex life and his size , he can't stop going on-and-on about how he makes his girlfriend 'come' every time they get naked.
Yes, you can make your girlfriend ejaculate. But while squirting — or its actual term, female ejaculation — isn't a myth or impossible, it'll take some true studying of her body, practice and being very comfortable with a big mess hey, she's been putting up with yours all this time to make magic happen in the bedroom.
Many people refer to this as 'squirting' or 'gushing. Experts give you the dirty run-down on female ejaculation, along with some things you likely never knew about your leading lady's body parts: It might seem sexy to 'turn on a girl so much that she squirts' — but without knowing the physical reasons that her body is responding in this way, it'll be hard to begin the process of helping her orgasm in such a powerful way.
While everyone has heard of the G-spot, many people don't know about the Skene's glands," Needle explains. The male prostate is responsible for generating most of the content of seminal fluid.
By analogy, the 'female prostate' is thought to produce the content of female ejaculate. Though you can likely stimulate most every woman's G-spot, causing them to feel a deeper, more intense pleasure during intercourse, fingering play or oral sex, Needle notes that not every woman's Skene's glands remember: Also, your girlfriend might not even know that you're starting to engage those glands because for most women, the sensation feels the same as if she was about to urinate, so they naturally hold back.
During intercourse or oral sex, the moment that feels the absolute best for you is when you're releasing into your girl or on her somewhere — but that same moment might be as intense as it is for women, even if they are releasing female ejaculate. In fact, sex experts will tell you that while the challenge may be pretty hot for you, it's important to remember that for women, a great orgasm is a great orgasm, and doesn't require a liquid release to be pleasurable.
More lubrication is not equivalent to greater orgasmic intensity or pleasure, and emitting a fluid is not prima facie evidence for greater arousal or more pleasure," Needle explains. Even though it might not be the most extreme orgasm of her life, if you want to try to see if you can get her to squirt or she's curious too! Before any clothes come off or anyone touches anyone, the biggest factor to pay attention to is relaxation. It can be difficult for a woman to allow herself to let go and be in the moment, and any holding back will prevent her from releasing tension that leads to female ejaculation.
This is where foreplay comes in," Dr. Melissa Fogel , psychologist and clinical sex expert, suggests. But another way to get a very in-depth look at the female anatomy, is to curate your sources and check them twice. One site that's dedicated to helping men and women get the most out of their sexual experiences and better educate their skill set is OMGYES. Just like the name implies: Created and directed by women, this site is more than just text on a page - you can physically see sexual techniques, 3D renderings and the ability to search for just about anything you need help figuring out.
Though the videos are sexy, considering it's sexual play, more than anything, they're educational and meant to be a way for you to 'practice. All you have to do is check out the 'try it yourself' stimulation that's even compatible with touch-screen devices, so you can master your strokes, taps and such, for as long as you'd wish. You can also master pressure and direction, speed and sensation to 'pass' a level and get her to orgasm, virtually.
A video game that'll help you make your real-life girlfriend ejaculate? Don't Be Afraid Of Lube Fogel says that while you might want her to just be wet out of pure pleasure, there's no shame in having as much lube as possible to start engaging her body for a long time.
Make sure not only to apply it to the outside and inside of her vagina, but to your fingers and palm as well. Once everything is sufficiently wet, you can start working on her G-spot. While we can't guarantee your body's reaction, if you stick with these lubricants that are water-based, you will more than likely be safe.
And hey, if it happens, see a doctor ASAP and do not be embarrassed — chances are good that they've seen it all! As one of the most well known and the No. This water-based formula only has water duh , glycerin, sorbitol, propylene glycol, hydroxyethylcellulose, benzoic acid, methylparaben and sodium hydroxide — all of which are approved ingredients for fun time in the bedroom.
It is mean to alleviate vaginal dryness for women while they're having sex, or for when you're trying to help her reach her highest level of orgasm. Though it is made with aqua, reviewers say that it feels more like a silicone lube, leaving you and your lady feeling moisturized instead of just-showered. This lube is also known to last longer and keep you hydrated under your belt for whenever you're up for some more action together.
It won't not get sticky and washes off easily, just in case you need to make it to your dinner reservation or the office, stat.
You might even consider bulk buying options, if you plan on using lube frequently in your sex life and ahem, you should, for the sake of both of your bodies. Really Nurture The G-spot Once you've done all the prep work, now you're actually in for the hard work of getting her to the point of squirting. Because female ejaculation can only really happen when you spend an extended amount of time — think up to an hour — focused solely on her G-spot, make sure you're prepared for a lot of trial and error.
Fogel recommends beginning with oral and finger play. After doing this for a few minutes, insert your middle finger inside her; palm facing up. With your finger in about two inches deep, rub her front vaginal wall using a 'come hither' motion.
After using this motion for several minutes you can add your middle finger and experiment with different amounts of pressure and movement," Fogel explains.
You'll know that this combination of oral sex and fingering is working when her G-spot becomes enlarged and feels spongy. This means that the frontal wall of her vagina is swollen with liquid from those Skene's glands, Fogel says. Using a toy can give your hand a rest, while also sending her orgasm into overdrive. Since most women need extra assistance to reach their highest peaks of pleasure, buying a few toys designed specifically for her infamous G-spot is a great investment in your sex life.
From the "rabbit" that everyone and their brother and mother has heard of, to super-sleek and kind of complicated sex toys, see which one fits the pleasure goals for your relationship and go from there. We suggest you try these to get yourself started: It dual-vibrates on both her clit and G-spot, and offers her seven different speeds to choose from, depending on what, ahem, tickles her fancy. It is also waterproof, in case you want to take all of that energy into the shower.
In fact, if your girlfriend has ever been intrigued by the idea of dual penetration but didn't want to sleep with anyone other than you, this might be the super-hot device that lets her experience it. There are three parts: Turn this one and get her ready for one hell of an orgasm. For this device, it is essential to use plenty of lube and to give your girlfriend the driver's seat. Because there's so much going on, especially for her, you do not want to push or vibe too hard and make her uncomfortable, or worse, cause her pain.
Enter this amazing vibrator that legit means business when it comes to getting to your gal's g-spot. Made for those who want to keep it simple and sexy, this vibrator has one purpose and one purpose only: It is softer than most vibrators hence the "jelly" and it's flexible, making it feel like your penis, but with a curved tip to get to where you want to go.
When She Squirts Once you've gotten to this point, it's time to switch the position of your hands. This switch will continue to stimulate her G-spot and will get her to the point of squirting whatever liquid she is able to produce. This is the point when she should release female ejaculate. This isn't something that comes naturally to every woman. And if she does, enjoy the clean-up!
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