Foreign men share their reasons for divorcing Japanese wives Jan. You might be surprised to learn that the main catalyst for divorce in each of their scenarios was rarely related directly to cultural differences. Instead, it seems that a combination of other factors played the decisive role. Japanese blogger Madame Riri recently posted an article exploring this issue by sharing the stories of men who were asked to described the reasons they divorced their Japanese wives. First, practical issues concerning family and money played a large role in their decisions.
He tried to please his wife by buying a nice house, car, and going on overseas vacations. According to him, although cultural misunderstandings were present in his marriage, they were not the root cause for divorce because he and his wife were both aware of and accepted the differences. Instead, it all boiled down to logistics: Either I would have to bring my parents to Japan or my wife would have to bring her parents to Virginia.
The man remarks that he and his ex-wife still love each other, but cannot be together due to the circumstances. Our hearts go out to you… Like any other couple in the world, issues surrounding children can either make or break a relationship.
They had once dated in the past, but the relationship eventually became strained due to their different ways of thinking and separate values, especially regarding work. However, after a period of 12 years, they have started dating again, only to be met with opposition from both families: His parents feel the same way. Things have spiraled down to the point where my wife and I are discussing whether or not she will take the children back with her to Japan.
If we split, the reason will be due to the absence of sex in our marriage. My wife seems to have lost all of her sex drive, although I still have mine. When all of those friends were getting divorced, I should have realized what was going to happen. Many people blame their failed international marriage on cultural differences, but in our case it was simply avoiding responsibility on both of our ends.
From her end, she became unhappy married to a husband who had to work hour weeks of manual labor to support their living. In her loneliness she resorted to cheating on him with her ex-boyfriend. Many problems that could have been solved in a few minutes were blown out of proportion. We split during our tenth year of marriage. I am now raising our two children in Australia.
It was a very bitter experience, but after getting divorced I am now living a much better lifestyle. For example, they almost seem to undergo a transformation in character when they change from a student into a working adult, or from a wife into a mother. Now consider this bizarre case. Because she had irritable bowel syndrome, it was really smelly.
Our marriage crumbled apart like flakes of paint falling from a wall. She would steal food from my plate and take anything she wanted. Issues surrounding mutual feelings of love, faith and compatibility seem to be at the heart of most cases, regardless of the nationality of each person.
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