What Is The G-Spot? You might be surprised to hear that the G-spot is actually not a spot at all. Ernst Grafenberg as a "distinct erotogenic zone" on the anterior vaginal wall along the urethra that responds to sexual stimulation. But it was Dr. Beverly Whipple who gave the spot it's name, G-spot, after Dr. In coming up with names for this discovery, one option that was on the table was the "Whipple Tickle. So, how does this thing work? It's all about the nerve endings.
Wikimedia Commons Now would also be a good time to note that the orgasms that occur through stimulating the G-spot versus the ones that result from clitoral stimulation are related — but are felt a bit differently. Women often report that a G-spot orgasm feels different from a clitoral one, as they experience sensations of bearing down or pushing out with their pelvic floor muscles as opposed to tenting effect from clitoral stimulation.
Beverly Whipple and Dr. Barry Komisaruk discovered that vaginal, cervical and G-spot stimulation activates different parts of the brain via four different nerve pathways that innervate the clitoris, vagina and cervix," says Dr. But if the G-spot differs in location from woman to woman, how do you go about finding it? According to sexologist Megan Stubbs , the best way to find the promised land is by working with your partner to try different methods for hitting it. It is commonly found two inches into the vagina and on the anterior wall.
Think of trying to touch her belly button from the inside. It could feel firmer or more textured than the rest of the vagina.
And of course, ask for feedback from your partner, especially if she has had success in finding her own G-spot. O'Reilly has a few finger techniques that should not only help hit the spot, but are ideal for G-spot stimulation. Or, curl two fingers in and pull out against the upper wall in a 'come hither' motion. Remember, it's a sensitive spot, so you really only need to be moving in light, delicate motions to do the trick.
After a few eye-rolls I let him have at it. Turns out, he wasn't kidding. I think one big thing that was different this time was that there was a ton of foreplay involved, so I was totally relaxed and not tensed up the way that I had been during my other unsuccessful attempts at finding this spot. I had also expected this G-spot whispering to be done with his dick — but he used his forefingers instead. It was pretty obvious when he hit it — it felt so much better than anywhere else I had ever touched up there.
We had originally gotten it as a housewarming gift and were going to get rid of it — but one night we were going at it and my husband picked me up and moved me onto it so that I was just about hanging over it, with my pelvis propped up. At first he actually hit it too hard and I pulled away. But when he entered me that same way but more slowly, it felt incredible. I tried the curling your finger thing, no dice.
Actually, one of my last attempts was actually kind of painful and uncomfortable. I thought I might have hit it, I didn't think it should be painful. It wasn't until one day that I wasn't thinking about it, and was getting myself off that one of my fingers accidentally made its way there — and I'm so glad it did, because it felt amazing.
For guys who are trying to help a girl find her G-spot if she hasn't found it herself, I think you need to not make it the mission, but stay aware of where you think it might be located — and try to find it when she's already turned on. How To Stimulate The G-Spot When it comes to how you interact with the G-spot, there are definitely some do's and don'ts you'll want to follow. Step number one being, make sure that you and your woman are on the same page about her G-spot.
Vaginal tissue is very sensitive. It is also imperative you ask for feedback from your partner, especially if exploring her G-spot for the first time. It may take a few times to find a rhythm or pressure your partner enjoys and some women may not like G-spot stimulation at all. O'Reilly recommends getting your woman warmed up beforehand as well. O'Reilly explains, "so work her up a little before going on the hunt. Many G-spots need to be aroused first before enjoying direct physical contact.
What Real Women Say "Be gentle, don't put pressure on her, and when you do find it, don't get all finger happy," says Stephanie, The best thing you can do when you do find it is to be really careful about how you touch it, and ask her how it feels. Don't just go off vocal cues here — she may not be speaking up because she doesn't want to thwart your efforts.
The best way to stimulate the G-spot is how your partner likes it done. But in order to know how that is, you need to do some work to figure it out. Try out OMGYES, the online sex tool that'll help you become an incredible lover "Any girl will tell you that slowly and gently is the best approach for the G-spot," says Blair, Slow yourself down — if you hit it with your dick honestly it might be too much, and you might need to pull out and go at the area with your fingers first, which is what ended up happening for me.
But once she's used to it, you can ease back in and get back to business. But if you also want to get in on the fun, you'll be happy to know that there are a handful of sex positions that are ideal for G-spot stimulation as well. Lovers In Arms "This position not only creates an intimate connection through full body touch and eye contact, but it is ideal for transitioning from man-on-top to woman-on-top positions without missing a beat," says Dr.
Have her slide her leg on top of your body, and enter her from the front. You can stimulate the G-spot through the vagina, but you can also stimulate it via pressure against the bladder through the stomach. Alternately you can put some pillows under your woman's hips.
Doggy style with her upper body raised on the bedhead of some pillows can also help. What Real Women Say "The pillow trick always works when I'm trying to get my G-spot involved in whatever position we're doing," says Malika, My boyfriend would also want me to tell you that he's the one who came up with this genius move, not me.
Guess he did his homework! The trick is to make sure he's not thrusting in a way where he's taking it mostly out of you, but more kind of pulsating in and out in smaller motions, if that makes sense. I remember making a sound suddenly that I didn't think I was capable of making, it just came out!
G-Spot-Friendly Toys To Try If you haven't hit the spot yet, it's a smart move to take a trip to the toy store and find something that's been engineered to do the trick. And this goes doubly if you have found it, and your woman loves it when you hit that spot. O'Reilly suggests throwing a couple's vibrator into the mix. As arousal increases, you can intensify the pressure. But it gets the job done for sure. When I finally did break that spell, I knew exactly where my G-spot was and how to tell my boyfriend to get there thanks to this thing.
Reliable, easy to use, gives you all the G-spot 'ohhhhs' you could want. More bang for your buck, you know? But with the right foreplay, some technique, some sex position maneuvering and maybe a toy or two, you have everything you need to get you there — and get her off. AskMen may receive a portion of revenue if you click a link in this article and buy a product or service.