But a big part of the equation is simply her getting comfortable. That, as her partner, is your job as well. Being nervous can tense her up and make the big first night fall flat before it even starts. No one wants either of you to be experiencing anything other than excitement and pleasure, and the first time can and should bring all that.
Good Vibrations staff sexologist. Also consider waiting on the positions that allow the deepest penetration like legs-over-the-shoulders missionary. This is her first time at bat, you can get to the fancy stuff later. No wham-bam in the van. This is about making the effort. The turn-on is the single most important element of this night besides consent , and if the turn-on is high, the choice of sex positions may not matter quite so much.
Jess , Astroglide's resident sexologist. What precedes penetration is likely more important that the positions themselves, as well. Talking about and coordinating birth control and safer sex practices so you have less to worry about during the sexual experience Talking about your likes, dislikes and boundaries with your partner Getting riled up through relaxation, touch, dirty talk, fantasy, toys, etc.
And both of you should be having fun, always. The key to enjoyable first-time sex is preparation. There are several elements of foreplay that will make the first time better, but the most important is lubrication. For many couples, the best way to ease into vaginal penetration is this classic position. Backdoor Planking Carlee Ranger It may sound like a yoga position — and it sort of is — but this is also a great variant for beginner sex. In this position, the female partner lies on her stomach with two pillows positioned under her pelvis and her partner straddles her legs to position himself closely to her vagina for rear entry.
In this position the female partner can lie comfortably while the male partner can access her vagina easily and take things slow while increasing his depth as she gives permission. Spooning Carlee Ranger We love spooning because it lends to intimacy and a deeper connection. And the key to success is that she is very, very turned on.
And that means concentrate on sex positions that are geared toward her pleasure, like the butterfly. She lays on her back with her hips off the bed. Her legs can either be wrapped around his hips, her feet can be flat on the floor or she can have her knees bent up to her breasts.
This position allows for her to control the angle of penetration with her hips and both of them have hands free to explore one another and make sure the clitoris isn't ignored. Plus he can control the depth and speed of penetration that works for them both. This position allows you to stay in control, keeps both of your hands free and doesn't stimulate you too much; all great things for a virgin.
If she is enjoying herself, you will as well. Girl On Top Carlee Ranger Girl on top positions are always a winner — especially if you like to get a great view. All illustrations by Carlee Ranger.