Most women love oral myself included , so getting it right is one of the keys to a great sex life. Oral sex is an essential part of great foreplay , but can be a full-on sexual experience in its own right.
Plus, getting her aroused orally means less pressure on you to last forever during the main event. What works for one might not work for another, and what worked last night might not work tonight. Where does that leave you? This is a big mistake and in my opinion quite selfish. A good lover shows his partner that her pleasure is important to him. This brings her arousal level up to meet your own, and ensures that she enjoys your encounter as much as you do.
How long do you need to go for? That depends on the girl. Until she orgasms would be good, but she might ask you to stop before then. Start out slowly A classic mistake with oral is that you just dive in with your tongue flicking away at lightning speed. You need to start out slowly.
In fact, start out by steering clear of her vagina. Kiss her lips, neck, breasts, the inside of her thighs. Make her wait for the real action. When you do finally get down there, avoid the clitoris for a while, licking around it rather than touching it. Again, when you get to the clitoris, start slowly. Tickle it with your tongue and only slowly start to add more pressure to your movements.
You want to tease to please. This will do much more to turn her on than just getting straight down to business. Get creative with your tongue The flat surface on top of your tongue is soft and flexible, whilst the tip is harder and can exert more pressure. You want to use the full part of your tongue at first, maybe moving to the tip later. Keep your tongue flat and soft, and lick up from the bottom of the labia to the clitoris at the beginning. If she likes that, you can move on.
Move your tongue in an up and down motion, or side to side. But keep up a rhythm, slow at first then building up. The clitoris is sensitive at the beginning, so going straight at it hard and fast with the tip of your tongue is likely to turn her off.
Vary your movements It pays to be observant. Start your tongue action, and see what kind of movement elicits moans of pleasure, then stick to that one for a while.
The classic trick here is to try spelling out the alphabet with your tongue. You need to keep that rhythm going, but start to gradually speed up and press harder as she moans louder.
Remember, gradually means over the course of several minutes, not seconds. Many women have a sensitive patch just to one side of the clitoris, for example. Lick there and see what reaction you get. There are two issues here. The first is neck ache, which can be handled by switching position. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work.
Alternatively, try putting a pillow under her butt to raise the area slightly. If your tongue starts to get tired, gently suck her clitoris or kiss around the vaginal area instead.
After a couple of seconds, you can go back to licking. The breasts, inner thighs, and backs of the knees are all erogenous zones, so stroking them will make her feel great.
You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Or try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to let you reach the more sensitive part with your tongue this is a move for later in the game, not right at the beginning. Alternatively, you can penetrate her with your fingers. Or let your fingers linger and stroke around her entrance to take advantage of the massive amount of nerves there. Both are good, and a combination is even better.
Experiment with different positions There are loads of positions that work for oral. From lying down to sitting up, 69, or even sideways resting your head on her inner thigh helps deal with neck ache. Try lots of positions and find out which ones work best for you and your partner. So look out for heavy breathing, moaning, an increase in her lubrication, grinding or pulsing, and possibly gripping your hair or the bedclothes tightly.
Leave your experimenting and playing around for the beginning. You might have neck ache, but just power on through it. Consider it a small sacrifice. The bottom line The key to repeatedly giving a woman amazing oral sex is to not expect any one thing to work from one time to the next.
You need to be flexible, creative and responsive. He explores the finer details of what really makes great oral sex, and gives you lots of great ideas and techniques to try.