October 11, John D. Does this leave you feeling rejected and confused? Wondering what to do about it? If left unchecked, it can cause some men to jump to conclusions and sometimes sabotage an otherwise healthy relationship. Some guys like getting it on several times a day. Other men are more of the once a week type. The same holds true for women. If you are in a relationship with a woman where you want to knock boots more than she does, here are seven tips to think about. It may not be about you Comparing your level of desire to that of your girlfriend can lead to problems.
Here are some things to ask yourself: Is she on any new medications? Does she take something for depression? Did she recently experience a loss? Does she drink a lot or use substances?
Are the both of you working different hours? Does she have a different circadian rhythm than you? For these reasons and many more , there could be mitigating factors contributing to her lower sex drive. Assuming you two are close, why not chat about it? Discuss needs One very real reason her sex drive may seem lower than yours could be emotional. In other words, women tend to need an emotional connection as part of sexy time.
Consider the following questions: Do you know what her emotional needs are? Are you aware of her sexual needs? Does she know what turns you on? When you are intimate, does she gravitate towards physical contact or emotional bonding? Kissing and Touching Needed As males, we are wired to be more physical. This goes back to our primal beginnings when we first walked the earth. As a way of self-checking yourself, reflect upon the following question: When is the last time you both kissed?
Not a quick peck on the cheek. Not a forehead kiss. There are several ways to accomplish this. Examples include soft touching, holding, and spooning. How about your girlfriend? Silly as this may sound, not everyone shares the same thoughts. Moreover, it involves way more than genital stimulation. Consider these starter questions: Do you consider oral a form of sex?
How might her definitions differ than yours? Initiating Is the dynamic such in your relationship that you wait until she initiates? As time goes on, things become predictable. In turn, this can lead to massive boredom. If you she is not respondent, which may happen, look it as an opportunity for dialogue.
It can be a huge turn on. Moreover, it helps to make the predictable unpredictable. Yes, you read that right. I know this may seem uncomfortable but you may discover it to be helpful. I know some men who make out with their girlfriends while they engage in this activity. Obviously, both parties need to agree. The longer the two of you are together, the more likely this will happen. Instead of casting blame and making assumptions, it just makes sense to work with an experienced professional. Doing so can help you both to better understand the unique dynamics of your relationship.
Are you in the wrong relationship? The Five Love Languages for Men: What I like about this read is the way the author speaks to men using guy friendly language. Remember, not everyone operates at the same speed in the bedroom. Communication is key — and so is patience.
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