A Room of Your Own: How to Make a Sensual Fort Posted on in Self-Discovery , Self-Love Every woman should have a place of her own, a place that is all theirs, a place that they can go to to rest, relax, regenerate.
Every woman must have this space, especially the wild, sexually liberated woman, for this place is her creative cave, her love nest, her sacred sanctuary where she can retreat to create or think or rest or paint or dream. I have such a place. I call it my Goddess Space. I created it on the eve of my big hiatus from work; a hiatus where, when before entering, I felt disconnected, despondent, and out of sync with my self, and when I exited, I regained creative consciousness, my sense of self, and my purpose in this world.
So my Goddess Space, this room of my own, is quite powerful, I think. Having this space of my own to retreat to has been paramount in my practices in unearthing my wildish, sensual, intuitive, feminine self. It is a a safe haven where I can retreat to and in, and shut away the rest of the world for a few moments to become one with myself.
In this space I have gemstones, dried flowers, and altars to mantras and Goddesses I hold dear. I practice my divination here, I soul collage here, I meditate and pray and journal journal here. In my space, I have birthed ideas and poetry. I have let things burn.
I have cried and laughed and sighed heavily. I have especially come face to face with the essence of my being, for this is a space that helps spur realizations of greatness and power I have within me. I think every woman needs their own sacred space—a room, a closet, a corner, a haven.
Somewhere, anywhere, that is all theirs, where they can decorate and curate and contemplate, where they can allow themselves the freedom to unfurl and undo if they wish. Is there an area in your home that is going unused? Is there a room in your apartment that is more of a catch-all than anything else?
Or a space where, each time you pass it you think, What I could do with this. Then that is your space. It could be a spot above your dresser or a corner in your bedroom. It could even be in your basement or your attic or your laundry room. Bonus if it has natural light, electric sockets, and room to move around in. Go on a nature walk or to your favorite vintage store and hunt for things you can invest in for your special space.
Be on a lookout for the things that produce a lilt in your heart, that put a smile on your face. Even if the things are small, even if to someone else having this one thing would be ridiculous, gather it anyway. Trust your heart and your first impulse when picking these things, too. Gather your creative tools. Whatever you need to create, whatever you need to brainstorm, whatever it is that fans the flames of your creative genius, gather it up and get it ready to go into the space.
Go wild here with candles, incense, beloved affirmations written on post-it notes, a mirror, strings of lights, drapes, matchbooks, airplants and fresh flowers, sea glass, chocolates, pillows, a soft blanket, old perfume bottles, your favorite books, crosses, pentagrams, ankhs—whatever you desire and anything that will be a feast for the senses. Assemble with intention and intuition.
Assemble the space how you want to assemble it; put it together the way you want it to look. Use thumbtacks and tape to hang art or handwritten mantras on the wall. Hammer in nails so that your vision board stays put. String lights around the corners to illuminate the space and create a soft halo of light around you and all of your treasures. Hang curtains or put up a partition for privacy. Put fresh flowers in a vase and incense sticks in a mason jar.
Let the space speak for itself. By definition, an altar is a sacred place where one goes to connect to the Divine. As for me, I use altars to not only pay homage to the Divine but to honor the beautiful things that I have collected, things that hold powerful significance in where I am currently in my journey. But of course, it depends on what the altar is for. I have an altar for Isis, for my wellbeing, for my bedside, for my tarot readings, and for the celebration of nature.
Perhaps you can make an altar to yourself or to your inner child. Or maybe one to your creative genius or erotic muse. Put your items on piece of fabric or a wooden plate and lay them out just so.
How do you want to enter your space? For me, I enter my space with comfortable clothes and bare feet. Then, I burn some sage or palo santo wood to cleanse myself and the space. But usually the act of entering the space is enough to leave me feeling ready. You might consider creating some kind of ritual for yourself whenever you step inside, one that gives the signal that the rest of the world has fallen away for a few minutes.
Some rules I have for my Goddess Space: Here are some questions to ask yourself to go even deeper: How do I want this space to feel? What do I want this space to represent?
What is the intention of this space? What am I going to call it? What will I do to keep my space sacred? And a blessing for your sacred space, from me to you: May this space be built in honor of your feminine wisdom. Will you be making a sensual fort?
If so, take a photograph of it via Instagram and tag it with sensualfort.