Not only is it sexy, it is extremely juicy…. Conflict is a natural occurance in any friendship or relationship. It can not be avoided, although we can do our best to keep it at a minimal. Conflict in and of itself is not a negative thing. How we handle that conflict is where we get into trouble or where we grow in our friendships and relationships. In our four year relationship, Mr. Officer and I have had our moments of conflict. We see things VERY differently at times.
That does not necessarily mean conflict will arise. Lack of Communication 3. Most of my issues arise from one of these four things.
Knowing that we are ALWAYS respectful to one another gives me the freedom to deal with our conflict and not have a negative perspective. We do not raise our voices EVER. I emphasize this because its so important for us. Maintaining a tone of respectfulness and love, even when we are saying hard things to each other is key. I love that he has never raised his voice at me and I have never done that to him. Most times he refers to me as sweetie and baby.
Just who are you married to? Even if they embody every characteristic of a pig, donkey, jerk or bastard…I think its uncalled for to ever refer to someone as that. Again, it may be normal for you. Because we have always remained respectful.
We give each other space. Sometimes I really want to hash something out and Mr. This mainly works for me though. I need to have time to my thoughts. Both are personalities are independent and we value our alone time. We figured out what we needed and gave each other that. What is it that you need? Do you receive what you need, even in your disagreements? We know when to let go.
Some disagreements just need to be let go. You have to choose your battles. We both know when to just let something pass and to leave it there. We know when to go at the issue. Officer and I once had a conflict and it kept picking with me which in turn was picking at him. He likes harmony and he knew that something was really eating at me. After giving me two weeks to think about it without prodding me, I finally brought the issue back up.
Why are you bringing this up? We found multiple solutions. It was just magic. In doing so we found out a need we both had and were able to meet those needs. We do not compromise. I think compromise means both parties lose a little bit so that a mediocre middle can be met.
Why not shoot for full satisfaction. Rather than compromising we come up with creative solutions through effective problem solving. We have high standards and yes they are different but if you are diligient and hardworking you can find a way for both your standards to be met. That is, if its something thats important. We communicate with each other and not everybody else.
The next time I saw Mr. For every sentence I may tell my bestfriend, Mr. Officer has heard the full paragraph. We keep the past in the past. Even if there is a repeat offense. Toothpaste cap left on the sink. Clothes on the floor. Whatever…keep the past in the past. Its just dirty, unfair and uncalled for.
It takes too much effort and its hurtful and annoying. I know I need to work on my faces. I do not have a poker face and I roll my eyes like a bowling ball. That would really help me out! Whether its through cuddling, kissing, massaging, …….. Lots of good stuff there. How do you fight clean with your significant other?