Do men go to these types of sex lessons? However, we have noticed a marked interest in men in the salons over the past six months, so we will be introducing more classes targeted at men and it will be interesting to see if they do attend. Who sets the bar? Before I went off to learn how to give blow jobs, I kept picturing young women paying a fortune to learn how to be better or kinkier or whatever in bed because their horrid boyfriends told them they were a boring lay.
Or really bright, beautiful, brilliant women getting all their validation from their ability to give really excellent head as oppose to, say, their ability to split the atom or rewire a plug. And it left a nasty taste in my mouth oh go on, pun intended. Why did I go? So why was I there then? Which is probably one of the bad reasons for going I mentioned earlier.
Sometimes I even try and convince myself that what is fundamentally laziness on my part is some sort of feminist stance.
Which is obviously rubbish. Especially when everyone else out there is going to these bleeding classes. You need a BTEC in knot tying and basic whip work just to get a second date these days. I went because I was curious, but also secretly thought there was an outside chance I might indirectly get a boyfriend off the back of it.
Who attends these classes? And you know what? Despite my aforementioned reservations, I actually really enjoyed it. Master Dominic is, as his name suggests, a dominant, who by his own admission is apparently well placed to teach the class. The first half of the class involved Dominic talking through his key blowjob tips essentially: There were a few others, but these seemed to be the most important points.
It occurred to me when I sat down, second glass of champagne firmly clamped in my hand, that what I was really expecting was a room of hard-faced hyper-ambitious twenty-somethings, frantically taking notes and asking questions about methods for opening your mouth really, really wide without dislocating something.
Instead, everyone was a little older than I expected, my age 30 and up. Some people were there with friends, but plenty, like me, had come on their own. All the women I spoke to were in long-term relationships and looking for an opportunity to mix it up a bit, including one married mother who was certain her husband would have come along had he not had to babysit the kids. The attitude of most of the women there seemed to be: Why has the 'sex salon' taken off as a concept?
Part of this can probably be attributed to the success of Fifty Shades of Grey, Belle du Jour and writers like Caitlin Moran and the result is that people are talking more openly about sex than they were before. Women, in particular, are feeling more empowered to be sexy and also to dominate. The atmosphere was friendly, warm and as un-scary as you can get. Aside from anything else, I realised how fundamentally unhelpful my po-faced, holier-than-thou attitude to the whole thing is.
It all comes back to decent sex education But what would you say if every schoolgirl was made to attend a class aged 16, where they learnt how to perform oral sex, for which they got extra credit on their Duke of Edinburgh? All I know is that my foray into the world of sex salons was a positive experience — much more than I was anticipating. Rebecca Holman has a decade's experience in women's consumer publishing.
Starting her career on the award-winning asos. She is a freelance writer and editor who writes about women's issues, current affairs, sex and dating.