April 28, at 6: So that means that A LOT more men are suffering for real, at the hands of their wives. So hopefully you can see that this does tip the balance in the direction of more men being in real pain and being sinned against than women currently. It is just insane the entitlement and self-centeredness that is seen by women today.
And yes, this does mean that more men are hurt. I definitely do care about women who are in pain, but my focus is often to get them to do something about helping their marriage. Alex April 28, at 6: What would you tell a man who was angry that his wife was denying him sex because she was in chronic pain and dying of cancer? I do think that you made the right move with the wife.
But would you see a man in a similar situation who complained about sexual denial as selfish? AnnaMS April 28, at 7: I greatly appreciate your desire to respect your husband and I know that my husband sees that same desire in me and actually approves the comments I make here before I post them and has told me to change wording around occasionally.
I am not mocking the pain that Jeff, Jonadab, and tons of other men face either as a result of feminism or entirely different. Granted I have a much more personal interest in my sister becoming saved than you do, but i hope that you can at least understand why I care about her so much.
I do not claim to know the extent to which marital issues are caused by women rather than men, but I can definitely agree that from what I have personally witnessed including sexual problems in my own marriage that the majority are caused by the wives.
I am sure that the problems I have faced with men in the past were somehow brought on by me and the resultant pain is therefore caused by me. Maybe if the Lord continues to tarry, that will somehow make sense to me.
The absolute greatest example of pain and redemption that I have seen is in Rwanda where I had the chance to visit a little over 2 years ago. These people have faced more hurt than anybody reading this blog is likely to ever suffer although I do hate comparing pain as different people handle pain differently. Their story behind the Village of Reconciliation is one of the greatest testaments to the work of the Lord that I have ever seen.
April 28, at 9: Most are taught absolutely nothing about vetting the character of a woman and seeing what she thinks about different things before marriage. Some have told me that were even encouraged to go after women that were going to be terrible wives their moms chased away the truly good, submissive ones and wanted them to pursue certain ones that had attitude problems from the get go.
You are still pregnant right? AnnaMS April 28, at 9: I do have to say that that kinda is more of a failing on fathers the ones that are not pushed out of the picture by mothers or the court system. I, nor anyone else, am in control of whether or not my sister becomes saved. I actually had this exact conversation with my husband earlier today when he wanted me to clarify something before I posted it.
Mean, we are called to be good witnesses to the watching world. Honestly, use the exact same logic you mentioned with men when it comes to marriage. Or does that not work that way???? Not to mention that some people are honestly not aware of how they come across until someone points it out. I am still pregnant. Baby shower this weekend and than just counting down time. My first came a month early because I was super stressed out and in a stressful job with an insane boss.
Its helped our parenting so much better to know the different things in society that undermines masculinity, and to help him navigate through those situations successfully! Especially while this far along pregnant, you may want to avoid things like that, you never know how a stranger will respond case in point, when I tried to confront that man, he escalated it dramatically, and then continued the harassment and slander for over 6 months!
April 29, at I understand where AnnaMS is coming from in that sometimes as believers we might not like what some Christians or some churches say or do and we feel their actions are an impediment to people coming to Christ. It is sinful pride. That is just plain old self-righteousness. I do that all the time with my unbelieving friends. I get emails from Christians every day on this blog telling me that I am impeding people coming to Christ talking about the things I talk about.
They think the Church should only talk about the Gospel and leave everything else for people to find out on there own. We are to preach the whole counsel of God even if some of that counsel is offensive to people and it will be. The real truth of the matter is this — preaching the Gospel and leading people to Christ is NOT our most important duty as Christians.
Our most important duty is found Matthew If anything is remotely controversial or might offend non-believers or even professing believers they will not say it anymore. Paul warned about these days when he wrote: AnnaMS April 29, at 8: My coworkers are very amazing and God has definitely blessed me. Honestly, I struggle knowing how to respond.
It goes against what Jesus teaches outside of those who are called to a life of singleness like Paul. I can only encourage people to be as wise in the dating process as possible. As much as I feel for men who have been and are being hurt in a marriage, my main goal is how to prevent this from happening to future men.
And yes, a lot of that is for people like your sons and my own son who will likely grow up to want to marry a virtuous woman. But not sure how long I can stay that way with a son and probably more who will be at that stage before I know it. The overly-practical nurse side of me is probably showing right now.
We just had one. I advocated we Christians follow the Bible on how to do marriage, that the church repent of their support of feminism and speak against it, that Christian wives submit to their husbands in all things, and with special emphasis on wives sexually submitting to their husbands, and then as they become the older women of the church, teach the younger women to do the same.
If you want more opportunities to reform and prevent modern problems, solutions in the civil sphere might include, work to change family law to be in harmony with the scriptures, reestablish male-only spaces, ban women from all positions in the military, eliminate no-fault divorce, criminalize fornication, repeal title IX, and move toward household voting.
April 30, at Remember just a while back I wrote on this very subject https: This was one my first steps in trying to do just that: But the end of the day marriage is a huge risk in our modern culture and even more so for men than for women.
In previous times when divorce was extremely rare couples just stayed together even if they could not stand each other because society frowned on divorce. But now society fully embraces divorce and actually makes it about easy as buying or selling a house. This when combined with feminism is what makes marriage such a HUGE risk.
I understand why some of my male friends who were married for years and were treated horribly can never trust a woman again. But I still think it is worth the risk as anything that is worthwhile in life is. I know for me my first marriage turned out horribly over time but you know what — I got 5 beautiful children out of it! And God taught me a lot and helped me to grow into a stronger person as a result of it. God has enabled us to look at systems whether they be mechanical, economical, or social and find ways to navigate them.
I am saying we need to teach men NOT to accept the system — but navigate it to get try and get the best result in marriage they can. I will talk more what I mean in upcoming articles. Alex April 30, at 1: My only worry is the potential consequences of criminalizing fornication. This does give women an extra incentive to claim rape. Unless what you mean is that we should follow a more OT model where a man who fornicate with a single women either has to marry her or pay a fine while the young woman has to agree to marry him or make some form of restitution to her father.
Maybe she has to work to pay off some sort of fine as well? Alex Basically, the benefit is that people know that sex outside of marriage leads to a serious commitment, which will make them think more carefully about their actions, and there is potential for biblical damage control. AnnaMS April 30, at 8: For example, I have always compaigned for and voted for pro-life candidates, and we still have abortion as legal. And who knows, it might create a ripple effect.
My husband and I are managing to have a good marriage in the midst of so much spiritual chaos, and if in 20ish years, the chaos is still there, I want my son to have that same chance.
I absolutely understand people especially men who struggle with trusting women after being hurt in a marriage, and I can understand why some give up entirely and choose never to put themselves in that situation again. But I think that they need to keep from exaggerating the doom and gloom of women. Absolutely men should be wise and aware of the terrible women out there good men have been warning other men of such women since back in OT days as seen in the Psalms and Proverbs.
This is something I really struggled with after my attempted kidnapping. I was terrified of men, looked on all strangers including fellow Christians as potential threats, and absolutely refused to be outside in the dark by myself even if it was in a safe area like walking from my car to my college dorm.
I did however, use it to encourage proper safety measures for my friends. April 30, at 1: LOL… Anna, the majority of my blog is devoted to creating discussions that will prevent problems like this!! This series will probably take weeks!!! It would not have helped her, but would only have served to make her angry with me and offended, even if I was partially right.
They may not be at a place spiritually in order to be confronted with that, so you have to take a much gentler approach. And yes, this means we have to focus a big part on how wives sin against their husbands, because like Jeff and Jonadab said that you took offense to and started attacking them about , the wives are getting a constant free pass from churches and preachers and Christian friends everywhere.
They have no incentive to change at the moment, in general, because of this major problem. It is very wrong and actually cruel.