A male reader, anonymous, writes 11 October My sister is two years younger than me, and we both went to the same university. The year I graduated, we shared an apartment for the summer months.
My sister had a full time job and I was just hanging out until starting graduate school in the fall. During the first week, we were up late drinking and I ended up admitting to my sister that I was depressed because I was still a virgin.
As you might guess, her efforts to cheer me up ended up with us having sex. In the morning, we were both embarassed about what had happened, but we were able to talk about what this meant for us. We both felt that it was a special moment that we would never regret. We recognized that while we loved each other, we were brother and sister and we would eventually have relationships with other people and probably marry and have children.
For the rest of the summer, my sister and I became lovers, sleeping in the same bed and sharing our lives in every way. After that summer, I went on to graduate school and my sister continued her univeristy degree. We both missed each other terribly for months, but we accepted that what we had shared was temporary. Eventually we dated other people, married and had families. That was over twenty years ago, and since that time we have occationally had sex or a passionate kiss during a quiet moment.
But no one knows that we have a special relationship. Our experience has been that if you can keep your relationship secret, and you both recognize that it is not going to lead to marriage, then it can work out. We both feel that our relationship has made our marriages stronger, because we have someone with whom we can be completely open when times are bad. Regardless of what people think, there are many things that you absolutely can not say to your husband or wife.
With my sister, I have a person I can share intimate details of my life. I know that if I did not have her I probably would have had an affair that would have led to the end of my marriage. Be honest with each other, and you may develop a supportive relationship that fills your life with happiness.