Ava Cadell August 31, Dr. The anus is a sensitive orifice with thousands of nerve endings, which can deliver both pleasure and pain. The trick to enjoying anal sex is knowing how to relax, communicate with your partner, and gradually build up to full penetration. Ask your lover what they like best about anal sex, emotionally and sexually. What is their favorite anal sex position? Do they want to use anal sex toys and what are their concerns? You can use an anal douche or enema to cleanse the anal passage, as both will leave the worries behind of uncleanliness.
Then set the mood by enjoying a bath together! One of the easiest ways to give a pre-anal massage is to have the woman kneeling on her hands and knees. This position gives the man easy access to her backside for her increased pleasure and provides him with an erotic visual.
Spread massage glide or lubricant over her back and work your way down towards her buttocks. This can help her to unwind and heighten sensations around her anus. Slowly, gently ease the finger covered by a finger cot and plenty of lube into the anus and wait for it to pucker over the finger before moving it in any further.
When your finger is in to the first knuckle, make sure to check-in with your partner. How does this feel? Remind her to breathe slowly and deeply as this can also affect the anal muscles. Tensing the anus and then letting go is a good way of learning to relax it. ANAL SEX RULE 5 Anal sex penetrative toys must have a flared base so that if you lose your grasp, it will not slip into the rectum and become irretrievable Butt plugs with a flared base are good for warming up the anus by getting the muscles to relax, especially for beginners.
The tissues of the anus and rectum are fragile, so you always want to start out with the smallest butt plug with a narrow tip and a gradual taper covered in plenty of lube for slow gentle insertion and removal. Anilingus can be performed using a dental dam , split condom, or even kitchen plastic wrap as a barrier.
ANAL SEX RULE 7 Use smaller objects for partial penetration and gradually work up to larger ones before full penetration Anal beads with multiple widths are a great way to build up momentum, as they start small and get progressively larger. Some women enjoy the sensation of the beads slowly stretching their anus, while others love the full feeling when all of the beads are inside them. They can be removed one by one or as one long strand of beads all at the same time during orgasm. Just be sure to add plenty of lube before inserting anal beads and wash them after each and every use.
ANAL SEX RULE 8 Never go from anal play to vaginal play without washing your mouth, finger, sex toy or changing a condom Because the anus is also used for bodily elimination, you must keep any anal penetration separate from vaginal penetration to avoid bacterial contact. The anus needs to be thoroughly lubricated throughout the entire process of anal sex. Also, always be sure to add lube to the tip of toys before inserting them anally.
Remember that the rectum is not a straight line, but tilts toward the front of the body in the beginning, then curves back as you go deeper and finally tilts toward the front of the body again at the deepest level. The woman is always in control of anal penetration A woman needs to know that you respect her limits and will not go deeper or faster than she is ready for. The more she can trust her partner, the more relaxed she will be. So, it goes without saying that you must have good communication during anal sex.
Remember, the best anal sex positions are the ones that work best for you and your lover! In a survey of , Playboy readers, 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal sex.
Using toys can help encourage communication with your partner by giving you both a focal point for discussion and for play. If you can talk about how to engage with the toy, then you can more easily communicate your level of comfort and pleasure, which is vital to share with each other as you try out new positions. Toys enhance your lovemaking through better communication and the thrill of trying something new. They excite your body by preparing the anus for penetration. You can start off with small toys and work your way up, not necessarily all in the same session!
Toys also enable orgasms, such as the use of anal beads to stimulate the G-spot into full arousal. With great communication and careful preparation, anal sex can be a wonderful release and an incredibly sensual experience! To find out more about the pleasure of anal sex, watch Dr.
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