It was an arranged marriage. We live with my parents. Recently others in the family eavesdropped on us and unfortunately managed to listen in on some of our private conversations regarding this issue, i.
This was deeply humiliating and painful for both of us. My father has recently taunted her with this overheard info first time in three years. Whenever I ask her anything about this she gives vague replies, urging me to move on and look at the future instead of the past. She vehemently opposed this and refused to give away even the names of her classmates. This has made her very nervous and disturbed.
In spite of what all this might suggest, I love her. That kind of probing is guaranteed to make any relationship worse. So the middle ground here is to know only as much as is necessary, and in this case you have a right to demand that information from your wife. What you need to know about sex before marriage Have an open discussion with her. Tell her first that you love her as she is, and that you have realized that finding out intricate details about her past life is not going to help your relationship.
This will put her at ease. Between the two of you, you might have issues every couple has. But to outsiders, you must put up a joint front — you must look like one inseparable unit.
Hence you need to know at least what others know — i. This would increase her trust in you manifold. Believe me Anon, you do not need to know any more than this to ward off well-meaning hints and suggestions from outsiders. At the same time you must promise her and yourself never to entertain these advances from outsiders. Photo by VishalSinghx It would mean the following: Yes, I know it will be difficult to overcome your urges of curiosity in such situations but youhave to do it for the sake of your relationship.
If they persist, you might even have to tell that to them in as many words. You have to make it very clear to your parents and the rest of your family that you and your wife respect them and have responsibilities towards them, but your private life is yours. And their interference in it is entirely unwelcome. Spouses might have the right to ask each other private questions.
Their parents and extended families have absolutely none. I understand it might be impossible for you to convey this to your parents in as many words. Let me know what action you took.