Dating can lead to all kinds of tricky situations. Encouraging you to settle isn't our style, but separating your desires from your deal-breakers can give your love life a major upgrade. Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. Don't conclude that if you don't think you look cute, you don't look cute to someone else, says Paula Bloom, author of Why Does He Do That?
Why Does She Do That?. If you don't think you look attractive, you might miss it. The jury is in: Men really do prefer women who make the first move.
As one guy put it, "Waiting for a man to make the first move is real old-school and outdated. Guys have a fear of rejection. If you make it easy for them to ask you out, the more apt they'll be to do it. Going out alone might invite men to talk to you but only because you seem vulnerable and desperate. Two is too easily unbalanced. What nice guy wants to ask a girl to dance if it means leaving her friend all alone? And four is too intimidating -- no guy wants to risk putting himself out there in front of a gang of potentially critical women.
The times have changed, and age just isn't as relevant anymore when it comes to dating. In fact, 66 percent of the men we polled [for the book] said they would date older women.
Not great at seeing who's good for you? Then stop trying and let a friend do it for you. Whitney Casey, author of The Man Plan, says to pick a preferably coupled-up close friend and put her in charge of finding guys -- any other guy you meet automatically goes in the friend zone. Not only does this help you date better men, you'll also end up acting more genuinely around other guys you meet when the should-I-date-him pressure's off.
Doing the online dating thing? Make sure you cast a wide net. Online dating is competitive, but being yourself is essential. OK, this might sound trite, but it really does make a lot of sense: That guy needs to save it for the golf course. That guy you met at the gym but aren't into?
That woman you met at the networking event last night? They might be the one to introduce you to your dream guy. If you haven't been on a date in a while, this could be the ideal opportunity to get back out there and practice.
If a guy really likes you, he'll pick you up and take you out, not ask you to drive across town for cocktails and a sleepover. Start with the basics.